I’ll never give up on you

Tonight’s one of those nights I’m too tired and too exhausted to write. I’ve been going flat out since first thing this morning. Tomorrow I’ll be back there to do end of month before 7am. That’s what needs to be done and that’s what I’ll do. So good night and sweet dreams.

Shower caps, losers and nothing to say

When you’re staring at a blank white screen, when there’s nothing but a whiteout in your mind, it’s right there that you have a choice. It’s that white nothingness that delivers the desperation and despair that’s needed to make something out of nothing. 

Right there we can sit back and wait, like a hopeless romantic waiting for someone to come and sweep them off their feet. Is it this one? Is he perfect? What about her? But to do that means stopping and waiting and hoping and drifting. And in all of that listless non-movement the only choice we’ve made is to do nothing and let chance shape our life. 

But there’s another way, one that puts us in the driver’s seat of our life. That way is the way of action. Action means doing something - anything. Even the slightest movement toward our goal - even the most tentative and fearful - is a move in the right direction. It puts us in charge of our life and gives expression to our enduring hope and our faith in our own abilities. 

And it is this commitment to moving and never giving up tells the world that we are, and always have been, winners. We’re winners because we didn’t quit when life threw us a white screen. We’re winners because we looked beyond our short term fears. And we’re winners because we wore shower caps playing soccer in the driving rain. 

Because that’s what winners do. They look for a way to laugh in the face of adversity and they look for ways to ride the bumps with a grin. And they look for ways to keep writing a better story. 

If you could

If you could love without fear and laugh without reason.

If you could rise to the occasion and race to the finish.

if you could waltz in the rain and walk the long road.

If you could defy the odds and dream something bigger.

If you could…do.

Hawthorn won the grand final. That’s two in a row. They dominated the Swans all over the ground.

And now it’s onto the cricket season. The long, hot summer of cricket. For me it’s like walking through a sporting desert.

And that’s it. The season is finished. Now it’s time to change the sheets and take myself off to bed.

This has been another wedding ring blog post.

I was listening to a podcast on the way home tonight. The topic was the danger of confidence. The thesis? Confidence is used to disguise a lack of competence.

Employers should look for competence, not confidence. And competence isn’t always accompanied by confidence. It’s common for people to be highly competent but not confident.

Humility is important. It’s better to be humble and realistic about our competence than attempt to gloss over our lack of abilities.

Attempting to fake it ‘til you make it does nothing more than show that we’re competent at faking incompetence. That’s not good.

Extroversion and confidence are often related. Extroversion is the outward manifestation of confidence. People who are confident and extroverted are often narcissistic and can come across as arrogant.

Great leaders are humble.

I’m writing a blog post - the one I mentioned in last night’s post - about email marketing and I’m going around and around and around in circles. 

I have no point that I’m trying to make so I’m going to keep writing until the point becomes clear. And it’s this part of writing I hate, not knowing what it is that I want to say. 

So I’ll keep writing and crying in my pretzels until I create a cogent argument. Or until the ends of my fingers start bleeding. 

It’s not quite clear which will come first. 

Tomorrow I’m going to write a piece about identifying a market niche. It’s going to a long and epic piece that will convince agents that their best option is to speak to a small audience. I want them to experience how a message resonates better when it’s addressed to a small audience. I want them to feel how silly it is to try to speak to people who’ve just bought a home in the same way as a hot buyer. I want them to know that their best option is to start with their very hottest, most profitable customer and then use that intimacy to begin talking to a wider audience. I want to do this for them because I want them to be successful. I want their email marketing to build their reputation and build relationships. I want them to experience what it’s like to have total strangers thank them for their perspective and their generosity and refer their friends to them because of the information the agent is sharing. This is what I want. Maybe I should just post this.

Matt Priddis has one the 2014 Brownlow Medal. What a champion. I’m so happy for him.

Priddis is hardworking, humble and unassuming. He’s no rockstar, doesn’t do take specky marks and he doesn’t do fancy tricks.

Instead, Matt goes about his work believing in hard work, commitment and dedication

I’m happy for him.

90 minutes of football has left me tired and sore. Unlike running 15+ Ks a game of football is all sprint and stop. There’s no jog around, tempo, easy.

There’s some big hits where players hit the deck pretty hard. I know I did.

But I loved it. I loved running around and doing my part for the team. I loved taking the hits. And I loved that I was the oldest bloke on the pitch.

So right now I’m sore but I love it because it’s a soreness that I worked for and it feels like a badge of honour.

From the stage, the smooth-talking speakers dazzled the audience with their latest scripts and dialogues and model days and productivity tips.

But though all of their clever rhetoric one message stood out: know yourself. Know your values, know your purpose and know what you want.

Out of this knowing comes clarity of thought and clarity of action that serve to create our reputation and help us to live a powerful, more centred life.

And when we know our centre there is no need for scripts and dialogues and model days, for our words and our actions reflect who we are and how we can serve.