5 moments when silence is always the best option

5 moments when silence is always the best option

A tranquil lake

There’s a time for words and a time for silence

Words can be powerful. They can influence and they can persuade. But in the same way the space between notes create rhythm, silence between words and sentences give people a place to pause, reflect and respond.

So, when are the best moments to be silent.

1. After you’ve asked for the order

The mark of a great sales person is how comfortable they are…

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7 reasons I’m grateful for my competitors

7 reasons I’m grateful for my competitors

When I first started out as a real estate agent I had no time for my competitors. I distrusted them and wanted to beat them at almost any cost. But a lot has changed since then.

Over the years I’ve learned that my competitors aren’t the threat I once thought they were. Rather, many of my current competitors have become close friends and mentors.

Here, then, are my top reasons to develop strong…

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Today, less than three weeks from my 51st birthday, I played my first game of senior football. Most of us Aussies call it soccer but I buy into the idea that it makes more use of the foot than any other game around.

Regardless of what you call it I played in the only position on the pitch where you can use your hands. I was our goalkeeper.

In the first half of the first half I was pretty crap. I let three into the back of the net in pretty short order. But then three things changed. First, I gave myself a good talking to. I wanted to make a save and contribute to the team. I got angry. Next, I charged way out of the box straight at two oncoming players. I brought the ball to ground in front and cleared it by foot. It was risky but committing to the charge helped me get my head right. Next, I made a save by diving to my right gloving the ball over the touch line.

From there things started to improve. Our team started to push the opposition back into their half. We had plenty of scoring opportunities but couldn’t convert. Still our boys kept up the work rate right through to the final whistle.

I was proud of the way the boys played. We’ve still got plenty to work on but we’re doing great. Not sure when I’ll play again but I had a ball.

I was going to write a blog about leading when you don’t feel qualified to lead. But I’m not because my home internet isn’t working. Actually, it is working but it’s slow, so slow that pages I visited 5 minutes ago are still loading. And now my computer is saying there’s another computer on my network using the same IP address. Seriously? How does that happen?

Anyhow, I’ve decided to write this post on my iPhone. It’s slow but at least the words I write will get published. That will amount to a blog post and that will be one more post in my 365 post challenge.

Which reminds me: Sales trainer Rik Rushton asked recently: What words would describe your brand on a 110 kilometre an hour freeway. Mine would be commitment and endurance. I take my commitments seriously and I don’t give up easy.

And that’s what this post represents - my relationship to the commitment I made at the start of the year.

Soccer training. Arranging finance. Coaching. These are the big ticket items that kept me busy today. Oh, and telling my web developer I’d lost confidence in his work. There’s a lot of balls in the air here. I won’t quit but I’ll always be worried I’ve bitten off more than I can chew.

I’ve run out of day and this is the best I can do for a blog. I’ve just got home from tenpin bowling. It was fun especially seeing the look of satisfaction on my receptionist’s face when she had me beaten with a game still to play. It was priceless.

But the real fun was playing some shoot-em up arcade game with Wayne. It took a while to get the hang of it but once we were on a roll…fantastic fun.

And now I’m home, heater on, cat and dog asleep and my eyelids starting to lose the fight against gravity. Time to hit the hay. Tomorrow, Jacobs Ladder.

7 tips for being more effective

7 tips for being more effective

A dog listening to it's owner.

Listening is a key strategy for being effective. So is being your own dog. cr

If you want to be more effective try these simple strategies.

  1. Take responsibility for what’s happening in your life. Sometimes it’s tempting to blame other people for how we feel or our lack of results but ultimately it’s a disempowering way to live. Instead, when things don’t go to plan, look for what you could change…

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5 tips that will keep you performing at your peak

5 tips that will keep you performing at your peak

Nutritionist and peak performance coach Julie Meek has the following simple tips that will help you to perform at your best.

1. Treat your life like a spring, not a marathon. Put another way, keep the finish line in sight. Creating short-term, achievable goals helps to give today and tomorrow urgency and meaning.

2. Create cycles of intense effort. Rather than watching the clock for 8 hours…

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It’s not often an 11-0 flogging is fun. Today was no exception. We did just that, we copped a flogging. The scoreboard tells the story that we were humiliated. But sometimes the scoreboard doesn’t tell the full story. It didn’t today.

It didn’t because we played with dignity and with respect. We played with heart and we played with passion. And we never gave up.

Sure, there were parts of our game that needed improvement. We lost our way in the midfield. We didn’t apply enough pressure on their defenders. And we didn’t have capitalise on our few scoring opportunities.

But they’re things we can work on. They’ll come to us with practice and patience. We’ll continue to be patient and humble and passionate. And we’ll continue to define ourselves by the way we handle our setbacks.

Today I watched the President of a local WAFL club supporting his team. He sat in the front row of the President’s Lounge alongside someone I assumed to be his wife. But his actions were far from supportive. When one of his players made a mistake he groaned. He accused the umpire of making mistakes and of being biased. He questioned the wisdom of the decisions made by the players. His was the behaviour you might expect from an average spectator, not from the president of a club that aspires to attract sponsors and win premierships.

In my view his behaviour sent a whole bunch of wrong messages to the sponsors and supporters in attendance. Sure, it conveyed he was passionate. But it also conveyed that he had little regard for the players and what they’d been taught by the coach. And for club that’s just sacked a coach that’s not a message you want to be sending.

Instead, the President would be better served showing his solidarity and support for his players and the decisions of the coaching staff. That would serve to build a sense of team than to be armchair supporter while trying to be the president of a club.